I know one thing for certain. J-Lo fans loved it when Jennifer was with Ben Affleck. They were just so darn cute together! But their relationship had a life of its own. The BIG AND BLOATED BENNIFERRRRRRRRRR. (Picture Oprah saying it….)

It should come as no surprise that the “Bennifer” breakup makes yet another top ten list of awful, ugly, and disgusting celebrity splits. Sigh…. poor Ben and Jen…..

We know she’s happy now (and so is he) but we still look fondly on the Bennifer coupling.

In fact, here’s a clip I found from the two of them arriving at the Gigli premiere in the summer of 2003. Has it been five years already?

Enjoy:

The other day I showed a quick clip of Jennifer Lopez making a red beans and rice dish with fried chicken. The clip was from the interview she did along with her then boyfriend Ben Affleck for Dateline. I had so many people tell me they enjoyed seeing that interview, that I thought I’d show the whole thing on this blog.

Part 1:

Part 2 (the cooking segment):

Final Part:

It seems both Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez are talking a lot lately about the break up of “Bennifer.”

First, Ben has seemed to have his relationship on his mind quite a bit, and even admitted that he thought doing the video for “Jenny from the Block” was a mistake. Jennifer has been less direct about it but has recently talked of her struggle in finally meeting Mr. Right.

Ben told one source that he and Jennifer were “too accessible to the media.” He says, “I think Jen and I made a mistake in that we fell in love, we were excited and maybe too accessible. I don’t think either of us anticipated the degree to which it would take on a world of its own.”

As in, the creation of a new name (Bennifer!)?

I know both Jen and Ben are happy with other people now, but didn’t we love it when they were together? To that end, I caught a lovely video montage of the two of them. I think you’ll appreciate it.

Rumor has it Jennifer Lopez wants a role in the next Sex in the City sequel.~source

Yes, kids, there is going to be another one! And I imagine the girls will be shooting soon before they could all change their minds.

Now, it totally makes sense that Jen would want a piece of Sex in the City, doesn’t it? She’s got the fashion bug, she’s a Jersey girl, and she’s just one of those modern gals who would fit right in.

What I think is funny is that remember when the movie came out this past summer? One reviewer said the movie was inspired by BENNIFER! (Cuz Big left Carrie at the altar, like supposedly Ben did to Jen. Only not really. Make sense?) That makes it even more funny that Jen wants to be in it. I think she’d be a great addition to the cast. How about you?

I’ve got a great flashback for you this morning. It’s Jennifer Lopez singing “Loving You” live on the Today Show. She looks great. This was during the “Bennifer” phase and she has a layered shoulder length hairdo and white tank top. She looks very soft and pretty. The song is from her “This Is Me…. Then” album.

Interesting article over at the Star Pulse that talks about celebrity romances and their rate of success. It shouldn’t be too surprising that Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck were on the list (and is probably known as one of the biggest relationship disasters of all time!)

I was surprised to learn that 80% of all Hollywood romances fail. That’s a huge number! But you know, is it any different than any other people that meet at the office? Those tend not to work so well.

I’ll bet you didn’t know that in a recent giveaway poll here at JloStalker I asked readers to say which of Jennifer Lopez’s ex’s was the hottest. It was a tough decision, because she has had some gorgeous men in her life.

Hands down, however, readers felt Ben Affleck was Jen’s hottest ex! I have to say it was a pretty great choice. (Too bad about “Bennifer” though. Perhaps in a different time Jen and Ben could have worked out…. sigh.)

What was Ben Affleck doing during the crazy Bennifer days? Writing a script, that’s what. He began the script for Gone, Baby, Gone based on the novel by Dennis Lehane, and originally thought it might be a good fit for Jennifer Lopez.

Here’s a preview:

I can see Jen in this movie, can’t you? Instead of casting Jen (since it’s kinda awkward to cast your ex-girlfriend) he cast his brother in the title role and decided to direct. I think that was a smart choice for him.

There’s a very interesting article about Ben in the Chester Chronicle, and one of the things it mentions is that Ben is fluent in Spanish and French. Wonder if he ever talked in Spanish with Jen? Or French? Ooo la la.

Ben has made some horrible movie choices since the breakup of Bennifer, so hopefully this film will help bring him back the respect he craves.

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There’s an interesting interview Ben Affleck did recently with the Mirror. In the interview he talks about fatherhood, his wild drinking days, and failed relationships.

He’s talked a lot about the whole “Bennifer” saga of late. I think he’s been reflecting on his life lately, and the choices he’s made. That’s natural for a guy in his 30s, but I think one thing that’s prompting him to do it is his stalled acting career. If his professional life would have gone fine after his break up with Jen, he might not have thought twice about it.

Like many couples, I think both Jen and Ben knew right from the start that their relationship wasn’t meant for the long haul. Ben says:

I really think you know ahead of time when you make mistakes in relationships, but you tell yourself, ‘No, I’ll be OK.’ It’s because you don’t want to face it. You’re only ready to admit it when the relationship becomes untenable and you have to get out of it.

When Jen started dating Ben, she was still married to Cris Judd. There were problems in their marriage but she didn’t allow enough time to pass before starting up with Ben. If she had, she would have realized a lot sooner that Ben wasn’t the right guy for her.

Ben, for his part, was still into partying and gambling. He’d been through rehab and quit drinking (supposedly), but he was spending a lot of time at casinos and strip clubs, and that’s no way for a man that wants to settle down to act.

Thankfully, both Ben and Jen have now found true love and the happiness of family life. Just goes to show that if you have the courage to let go of the wrong person, you may just find the right one.

Warning: Sex in the City movie spoilers ahead. If you haven’t seen it yet (and don’t want to know what happens) get on outa here.

The rest of you? Read on.

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Writer Roger Friedman gave a review for Fox of the Sex in the City movie and came away with an interesting comparison between Mr. Big and Carrie and Bennifer.

Yes…

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Bennifer. That big, bloated, mess of a relationship/public relations nightmare that happened a few years ago between Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck. Namely, the wedding that occured (or didn’t) between the two.

Regarding Sex in the City, Friedman said:

“It is fair to say, then, that their big wedding at the New York Public Library is cancelled. Big leaves Carrie at the altar. This occurs about halfway through the film. It seems based on Bennifer — I mean Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez’s — cancelled nuptials of just a few years ago.”

Ouch. The movie comes out across the country on May 30th, and even with this knowledge I will probably go see it. Who could resist?

On the plus side, if we really are to compare Big and Carrie’s relationship to that of Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez, they both DID live happily ever after. After Bennifer, that is. So maybe the answer for Carrie and Big is to each find their true love, get married, and have babies. Two, in the case of Carrie.

In other words, as long as Big and Carrie don’t make a crappy movie together that no one can pronouce, I think they’ll be okay.

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It’s like the equivalent of getting a tatoo with your lover’s name on it. Sure, you think it will last forever, but will it? Really?

In the case of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, it didn’t. And it was unfortunate enough that they starred in two ridiculous movies together (Gigli and Jersey Girl), but they had to do that video together.

(Incidentally, Kevin Smith, if you are reading this, I would like my $4 and two hours of my life back for watching Jersey Girl.)

The rotten movies were one thing, but the video for Jenny from the Block was something else. It showed Ben and Jen avoid paparazzi and smootching, which was fine, but then came that scene on the boat where Ben is rubbing oil on J-Lo’s back and stroking her lovely behind.

It’s an image none of us can get out of our minds, including, apparently, Ben Affleck. Ben says, “If I have a big regret, it was doing the music video. But that happened years ago. I’ve moved on.”

Apparently not if you’re still grousing about it. And he is grousing, IMHO. A source says “Affleck insists he isn’t blaming Lopez for his career nosedive: “It not only makes me look like a petulant fool (to blame Lopez), but it surely qualifies as ungentlemanly? For the record, did she hurt my career? No.”

I would say not, Ben. Your terrible acting roles have hurt your career, although I understand how being married to another Jennifer while Jenny From the Block comes on the TV once in a blue moon can make things difficult.

It seems both Ben and Jen have learned a lot from their public relationship as they both remained fairly mum on what’s happening with their current marriages.

Learning from one’s mistakes? Priceless.